Attack with the Stack - The Light

"When you think all this forsaken, listen to me now. Not always forsaken. You need never feel broken again. Sometimes darkness can show you the light." -David Draiman.

Now I'm Chuck Whitman and I build great traders that lead great lives. Traders I've trained have generated in excess of $1 billion in revenue and are found at some of the top proprietary trading firms and hedge funds in the United States.

Last session we learned about the lift. Well, there's a concept called the false lift. in the false lift, we have an event that triggers us. We come to a resolution about this event, and we feel better but we don't change anything. This creates what's called the karmic cul de sac. What is the karmic cul de sac you want to cul de sac is it's like a cord that people live on. It's a circle that people live on. in the karmic cul de sac what happens is we have an event that causes problems. We come to a resolution of that event, and because we do we feel better, but we don't change anything about our behavior. So we loop back to the beginning and we repeat the event again, and again. And again.

Let's look at an example of a couple where the husband is always leading up to toilet seat, and this annoys the wife to no end. Sometimes she doesn't say anything about it, but sometimes other things are going on and she just can't take it anymore and she yells at him for leaving up the toilet seat. When she yells out about leaving out the toilet seat right away, he's defensive. He yells back at her and it turns into a giant argument about the toilet seat. Now when he yells back at her, he's angry and the fact, he's yelling at her creates space between him and her. She doesn't like being yelled at so she pulls away. So their intimacy goes out the window and they dig in about how angry and frustrated they are with each other about the damn toilet seat. Now eventually they get tired of being angry with each other, and what do they seek? They seek to be connected. So the husband finally says something to the wife like "I'm sorry, I left the toilet seat up." Now as soon as he says this, she feels better because he's apologized. So she lets down her guard. She lets her anger go and she starts to move closer to him. He felt better for saying he's sorry. This relieves some pressure she starts to move closer to him. She feels good about that. Now he feels good because she's moving closer to him, and now they go from being really dug in apart to moving closer and closer into connection.

This is why so many couples will talk about the best sex they ever has makeup sex, it's the sex they have after they fight. But the problem, the the core problem, is him leaving up the toilet seat and the wife being annoyed about it in yelling at them. Nothing about this has changed so they feel better. But two weeks later, they get into the same issue again about the damn toilet seat. They're not learning from the problem. This is the karmic cul de sac. This happens in so many areas of our life. We need to grow from our mistakes. If we don't we're destined to repeat them.

Now we've talked about the drift, the shift and the lift. Now we move into the light, the final stage of the stack. What is the light? Well, we have an event we ask questions. We have an event. We express our emotions to get it out of us. This creates space. We ask questions about the event that gives us a different perspective, helps us to calm down and see things from different views, and we use that to get clear about what is it that we really want and then we learn a lesson. Now once we learn the lesson, we need to figure out the greater lesson, and this greater lesson is important because it essentially takes the lesson and shows us well how are we going to fix this for good. What changes are we going to make? It's great to learn a lesson but what are we going to do to make sure we don't repeat the lesson. Now one awesome thing about the stack, it was one of the things that really drew me into the stack was the stack is predicated on a conversation with God, conversation with a higher power. So we worked through these early steps by ourself, but with us in the whole walk in the whole dialogue is actually God. God loves transparency. So when you express your emotions, this is something that makes God very happy. Because he wants to see you express these emotions. He wants you to be authentic. So now in the stack, we're expressing these emotions. We're learning a lesson. But now we can have a dialogue with God. About "okay, I've learned this lesson What do you want me to do with it?" And we open ourselves up to experience revelation. This is a very important concept. It's a very important concept to understand that you can have revelation directly from God. You don't need anybody to interfere or intervenee on your behalf. This is actually one of the great lessons. This was actually one of the great features, one of the great elements of Jesus Christ, which is that Jesus came to make sure that people knew they could talk directly to God. They didn't have to work through a Pharisee or a satersie, they could go straight to God. They didn't have to go into a temple behind a curtain. They could go straight to God. Now of course church, different churches try to get in the way of this again, but the core element of this is that you get to talk directly to God. This is a radical concept, but it's one that I truly believe in. And then not only that, but when you get to get revelation from God, you get to hear what God wants you to do. This may come in whispers may come in a feeling in your body and intuition. But God is talking to you. So the stack is a place where you have a dialogue with God, and we learned the higher lesson.

Let's look at Revelation I mentioned revelation, what is the definition of Revelation? Revelation is the act of revealing or communicating divine truth. Something that is revealed by God to humans. When we go through the stack and we're wrapping it up, we ask the question, what is the revelation that we learned? And then once we learn the revelation, what actions are we going to take to integrate our revelation in the next 24 to 48 hours?

Let's look at the first question what is the revelation the insight or distinction that you're getting from the environment you're in? And the answer is the revelation I'm getting is blank. And I can literally be asking God about this what is it that you want me to learn?

Now the answer from the example we've been working through with Steve and this dinky situation is I'm getting the revelation that my focus and my stories matter. I'm a victim of my stories when I choose to be. Let's hold on to that for a second. Let's go back down and look at what was the lesson we learned from the lift. The lesson we learned from the lift is what I bitch about is never the issue is the trigger of the real issue underneath. The revelation answer is a higher level answer that solves the lesson from the lift. So the lesson is whenever I bitch about is never the issue it's always something deeper. When, my wife bitches at me about the toilet seat being up. It's not really about the toilet seat. It's about something else that she's feeling distant or not connected from or disrespected by me. In this case, I'm getting the revelation that my focus and my stories matter. I'm a victim of my stories when I choose to be what's really interesting is this has been one of the big big lessons I've gotten from working the stack.

It's funny for years and years, I adopted and preached the whole idea that you're responsible for your own results. Responsibility, you are responsible for yourself. No one is coming to save you. The buck stops here. That sounds great. But what's interesting is I started doing stalking and I started working through different frustrations in my life. I realized that I wasn't in a place of empowerment. I was a victim. I was constantly making myself a victim and I had stories about why I was doing that. That justified why I was doing it. It made me feel good. But the reality was I was giving all of my power away. I was giving my power away to other things. So great example is the topic of time. I've always operated under this belief and you've heard this before, I'm sure I can always get more money but I can't get more time. The great equalizer is everybody has the same 24 hours in a day whether you're the president or a six year old. Everybody has 24 hours in a day and I bought into that. I bought into it wholeheartedly and then I had a story that there's only 24 hours, and so because of that, like you don't understand how busy I am, you don't. I get up at 5am and I'm going fast to do my prayers and get my workout in before I have my trading meeting, and off my trading meeting, I get my gotta get my content developed because I have a three hour workshop and two hours of meetings and one on one coaching. And then at the end I still haven't gotten my marketing done and yet I got to still spend time with my wife and my daughter, and maybe I didn't even get my workout in. And it's all crazy and I can tell you the story about how busy I am, how busy I am, how busy I am. And it's actually making me feel important. It's making me feel like I'm a big deal. You don't understand how busy I am. But the reality is, is I was a victim. I'm a victim to time. I've given all my power away to time and I live in a state of overwhelm anxiety, anger, frustration. I'm not fun to be around. People do not like to be around me when I'm in this place. I'm rude. I'm arrogant. I'm Kurt. I'm a victim. I'm acting out. So I could start to see this. I could start to change my stories. I could start to to change the story from there's 24 hours in a day to "I believe that God loves me and that I will live eternally". There actually is no such thing as time. What a shift! Time is the ultimate in abundance. I was making time the ultimate in scarcity, but I can change the story where time is the greatest of abundance. It changes everything. It puts me in a place of being a creator. It puts me in a place of being empowering.

Alright, great. I've learned this lesson. I've learned this lesson. About time. I've learned this lesson about that what I bitch about is never the issue. I've learned this lesson I'm a victim. Awesome. Pat myself on the back feel really good. No, I still have to go do something about it. Otherwise, I'm just engaging in mental masturbation.

Let's look at the next question. What is your reaction to the revelation? How do you feel? What do you think? What do you have a desire to do? When I ponder the revelation I feel blank, I think blank. I have the desire to blank. Alright, so here's the answer. When I ponder the revelation, I feel free and hopeful. I think about all there is in my life. Were simple distractions are triggers that are causing me everything, everything in the sense of time, energy and money. My desires to simplify my life by exposing the smaller triggers one at a time. When I see the pattern, I will expose it I will share it with others and I will change it. Action oriented.

What do you see as the next step actions to take to make this revelation real? What are you willing to do? I'm committed to doing the following blank. I'm committed to spending 30 minutes during my weekly General's Tent, reviewing the small negative triggers of my week. I've also creating a new story and commitment every week to eliminate one of these triggers.

Takes us to question four what dangers do you see that could possibly get in the way of you executing on your committed actions? I can see the following possible dangers. If I don't do the work, these triggers are not going to get fixed. I need to do it every single week. Of course these triggers aren't gonna get fixed if I don't do the General's Tent need to do the General's Tent And they could also not get done because I'm afraid to face the triggers. And as a result, I don't change them. Alright, so how do I overcome these roadblocks? Well, I would deploy the following strategy. During my Sunday's General Tent, I will dedicate the first half of my Tent to reviewing and declaring the small triggers. Once I identify them, I will choose to work on one at a time. I will put it on a note card and I will review it daily in a car until there is no charge, no emotion. I will do this every day of the year but I do it on one until I have no charge on it and then I move on to the next one.

So let's do to recap. Right so we have the revelation and we have the action. We have this dialogue going with God about what it is he wants us to do, and we will go deeper into this in the future by the way. In the recap, we have the drift. The drift allows us to release the rage. We get to get clear about what happened and we get to express our emotions and get it out of us. By doing so we create the space to be able to examine what triggered us. Then we go to the shift. By creating space we allow ourselves to examine our story and create a more empowering story to give us what we want. Then we move to the lift. In the lift to identify the lesson that we learned through the drift and the shift, the lesson we learned that lifts the standard of our lives. The fastest path to growth is to learn from life. This is one things I tell my students. I know when you made it as a trader would you start to learn more from your own trading than you do for me. In my life, the greatest insights I have gained through doing work on myself. My greatest trading insights come from my trading and my research. My greatest coaching insights come from the work I do on myself and others. I still go to coaches. I still take workshops, and read books and so forth, but day in and day out, the biggest lessons I learned, they come from me and they come from God. They come from this partnership right here. Last night, last two days I picked up to massive distinctions in my life. Massive distinctions. Wasn't talking to a counselor wasn't reading a book. I was working on me.

Then after the lift The lift moves us into the light. Where we have this lesson. Well, we take the light and the light gives us revelation on the lesson it shows us okay, here's the lesson we learned. What are we going to do about it? How can we take this lesson and learn it and apply it at a higher level in our entire life. This allows us to be able to create a new pattern of success to create new habits, a new way of thinking, a new identity that allows us to rise to the level that we never had before. It also allows us to apply across all four domains, so that the lesson, the revelation is robust.

When we look at the stack, the lessons we've learned is your greatest adversities. Your greatest frustrations and emotions become incredible. assets through the stack. You can analyze your trigger, analyze your anger, shift the story, and then apply the new lesson you learned across your entire life. You gain clarity about what you generally want and it allows you to be proactive about integrating it into all areas of your life. You are a creator, not a victim. You are a creator, not a responder. You are empowered. Every situation in your life is an opportunity to take your life to the next level. I want you to think about this. The stack has set you up, that if you embrace it and practice it, anything that comes into your life, everything that comes at you that's negative, that's frustrating, that's hurtful, that's traumatizing, does not have to be that way. You take those things and you learn from them. You spin them. You pull the lesson. You get the revelation, and you apply it into your life, rising as being stronger, being better in every area of your life. Have a really bad trade, no problem. Your wife walks out on you, no problem. You have issues with your kids, no problem. Whatever it is, these these things that most people it would be crushing to them, they become your fuel to gain insights to become the best version of yourself. I'm not saying you're not going to experience pain, you will, but you won't be stuck in it. You'll be able to flip it. You'll be able to grow from it, and when you're in this place there is no fucking stopping you. Nothing can stop you. You will have the ultimate in power.

Finally, you get to have conversations with God. You get to talk to God what God wants most from you is complete transparency. He already has it anyways, let's be honest. He knows everything you're doing when you run off and hide. He knows what's going on. Not gonna hide from him. But what he desires most is for you to be totally transparent, and through this transparency you get to be totally authentic. When you're totally authentic, your relationship with God will connect and you will take off and you will be filled with breakthrough after breakthrough after breakthrough to actually create new patterns of thinking. It helps you create new identities. It helps you take your life to a level you never thought possible.

We've had this stack available for you where you could go online and do your own. I encourage you to go online and finish these last few questions finish your stack. Also we have another gift for you which is in the comments below. You can see the link, you can click on it and you can get a document of the stack. So you can start to do your own. Do them in notability or word or OneNote or however it is you want to do it, and that's just the beginning because we do amazing work with the warrior software. The Warrior software will take your stacking to a whole nother level which we'll get into. But for now I have this gift for you so you have the documents so you can do it on your own. All right. What day is it? Yeah, it's Tuesday. It's not just Tuesday. It is Trader Tip Tuesday. That's right. Why come to you with techniques like the stack that you can do again and again that will help transform your life. They'll help you take your performance and your life to an elite level. I'll see you next Tuesday.